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7 Ways to Save Money For Young Adults While In College

By Delan_Cooper

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College may be the first time that many young adults will start having to manage their own life and money. For some, it may be the first time they actually have their own money to manage. This makes college a great time to start developing good money saving habits. Learning how to get into the habit of saving money is just as important at this time as learning how to budget or spend money wisely. Here are 7 great tips on how to start saving money in college.

1. Free is Always the Best

While there is nothing wrong with dropping $100 or more on tickets to your favourite band or other events, making this a weekly or monthly habit is not a good idea. Learn to be on the lookout for free or discounted prices on events and save your big dollars for just a few of the events you want most to attend.

2. Always be on the Lookout for Side Gigs

Whether it’s participating in a research study, delivering flowers on Valentine’s day or selling items you no longer use on the internet, there are almost always ways to earn a little extra cash here and there. If you are into an online business just make sure you understand everything from website hosting types to online marketing. While you may not want to juggle more than one part-time job while you are in school, always be on the lookout for ways to earn a few extra dollars here and there. Over time, those few extra dollars can really add up.

3. Create a Budget and Stick with It

It’s never too early to start budgeting money. This is particularly true if you receive a large lump sum of money at the beginning of a semester that may have to last you several months or if your income is sporadic. If nothing else, it’s always a good idea to write down all of your base expenses so you know the minimum amount of money you need each month to live on. From there you can budget things like food, clothes, personal items and other expenses.

4. Always Sock Away a Percentage of Your Income

Whether you make $10 from driving a friend to the airport or $100 a week from a part-time job, always put a percentage of your income in savings. Whether you save quarters in a gallon jug, dollars in your sock drawer or invest in an IRA, saving money is an important habit to get into. While it may seem somewhat silly to save 10% of your income when you only make $300 or $400 a month, the important thing is to get into the habit of setting aside a portion of every dollar that comes in.

5. Write Down Every Dollar You Spend

One of the first things most financial planners will tell you is that you need to know where your money is going. Spending $5 on a latte may not seem like much, but when you add that up over the course of a month, you may realize you spent nearly $500 just on coffee alone. Writing down every dollar that you spend will help you understand exactly where all your money is going and help you make better decisions about how to spend (and save) it.

6. Use Cash

Studies have shown again and again that people spend less money when they use cash over credit. The reason for this is a psychological disconnect between seeing the actual currency and just swiping a card. When you use cash instead of credit, you will naturally and inherently spend less money and the less you spend, the more you save.

7. Shop in Person First, Then Check Deals Online

While you can often get better deals on the internet than in a standing store, internet shopping often makes purchasing too easy, which can lead to overspending. One of the main keys to saving money is spending less money. If you make it a habit to physically go to a store when you need something and then check online prices after, you will be making more conscientious choices about what to spend your money on. One of the main things to avoid when it comes to saving money is unconscious spending. The more you are aware of exactly how, where, when and what you are spending your money on, the less likely you are to spend it frivolously.

Saving money does not only make you proud of yourself, in addition, but you can also treat yourself with a wonderful trip to see the world more or even register for a profitable course or improve your talent by joining an art class.

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Training Your Mind with Meditation

By liammccl

Meditation mastery

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Meditation mastery

“Meditation is a science, the systematic process of training the mind.” – John Yates, Ph.D.

By sophomore year of high school, it had become clear that my mind was completely out of control. After a series of car crashes resulting from my own distraction and declining grades in school, I was promptly diagnosed with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and prescribed several medications. This came on top of a previous Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) diagnosis.

I’d sit down intending to accomplish something and end up scrolling endlessly on the Internet instead. A childhood of Lego-playing and reading had made me into an intellectual kid, but at this point in my life, I couldn’t pay attention for more than 10 seconds on any given task.

I was a wreck and this seemed to all stem from an unfit mind, trained to seek instant gratification in the form of social media “likes,” text messages and entertaining video clips. This state of mental fragmentation continued until I discovered a simple practice that would change my life.

The Antidote

While studying psychology at Yale, I stumbled upon a podcast episode that suggested meditation as a means of increasing productivity and wellbeing. But what began as a productivity tool quickly became an obsession, as I realized that I could train my mind to better suit my intentions.

Through meditation, I slowly regained my ability to focus and also recognized a host of other benefits: behavioral change, emotional control, increased mood, better sleep, and less stress. These improvements in brain functioning are all interrelated and confirmed by scientific studies on the benefits of meditation.[1]

“You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius

I began to recognize what a superpower it is to have control over your mind in a world of constant distraction. As we live in a growing “attention economy,” in which companies exceedingly profit from our attention (which determines future purchasing decisions), it’s never been more important to be able to consciously dictate how we think, feel and interact with the world around us.

One year out from college, with this realization in mind and the determination to bring secular meditation to a wider western audience, I left my job in finance and traveled to Bali, Indonesia to become a YTT Certified Meditation Teacher. Afterward, I spent time in the mountains with Buddhist monks, meditating in silence for 17 hours per day.

How to Start Meditating

There are so many different meditation methods that beginning a practice can seem daunting.

What I’ve laid out below isn’t a quick fix. Rather, if you truly want to transform your mind, it will require consistent effort, just like training any muscle in the body. Everyone has the potential to make substantial progress, but only those who are disciplined will reach the advanced stages.

Where to start?

  1. Commit to a regular practice

In what I call a “Minimum Viable Commitment,” choose an amount of time that’s so small it seems feasible even on your busiest day. Three minutes is all you’ve got? Great, start there in establishing a regular daily practice. The only way to really “fail” at meditation is to stop practicing. Slowly increase the amount of time you spend in meditation and aim for 20 minutes at the end of your first month.

  1. Find a posture

Thankfully, there’s no need to form a human pretzel in your meditation practice. Meditation posture simply involves having an erect spine (so that your mind stays alert) and eliminating your body from the equation. I like the phrase “sit with dignity,” meaning not too stiff but also not too relaxed. You might sit in a chair, on a cushion or even kneeling – whatever works best for you personally.

  1. Breathe

In the modern world, we spend so much time in the “fight or flight” mode. If your mind is racing and anxious, begin by taking elongated and smooth breaths in and out through your nose. You might exhale for longer than you inhale in order to help activate the “rest and digest” parasympathetic nervous system.

  1. Hone your attention

Park your attention on a single spot, wherever you feel the breath most in your body. This is usually either the stomach or your nostrils. Whatever you choose, simply observe the sensations of breath as closely as possible at that one spot.

Keep your attention focused there for as long as possible. Each time that you find your mind wandering, gently bring it back to your breath. The point here is not to force thoughts out, but rather just to recognize them as thoughts and keep returning to your object of meditation.

For the first couple of weeks, you will notice that your mind wanders often after just a couple breaths, forgetting that you’re supposed to be meditation. You are training those attention muscles, the ability to have conscious control over where you direct your mind.

  1. Open your awareness

It’s important to hone your attention muscles before jumping to this next step or you will find it impossible to keep the mind from wandering off. Introspective awareness involves making your full experience, i.e. the mind itself, your new object of attention.

What does it feel like to be you in this instant? What kinds of thoughts, feelings, and sensations are arising? Simply observe these occurrences without getting swept away into some narrative.

Many of the benefits of meditation come from increased metacognition as a result of this fifth step. By becoming more aware of how your mind works, you gain more control over your own internal mental machine.

These five steps can take you very far in meditation… There are additional techniques you might add to your meditation practice once you cultivate a strong “attention muscle.”

Practicing this simple exercise for the next couple of weeks, you’ll be ready to progress to the deeper stages of meditation.

Best of luck in beginning your practice!


Liam studied Psychology at Yale and became certified as a YTT Meditation Teacher. He now runs a corporate meditation training company and blogs about mental wellness at FitMind.

[1]For a great summary of the meditation research literature, check out a book called Altered Traitsby Daniel Goleman and Richie Davidson.

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How to Deal with Isolation and Loneliness When Working from Home

By Maryn_Mcdonnell

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Working from home can lead to loneliness and isolation, especially if you live alone. This isolation can reduce your creativity and inspiration, and your productivity will eventually suffer. To keep your mind at peak performance, you need to combat loneliness when working from home. Read on to find out how you can reduce isolation.

1. Going to a Coworking Space

If you were used to working in a corporate office, you might find it hard to work alone. In such cases, you can consider going to a coworking environment. But how does coworking space work? People simply come together and mutually rent out a working space. They then share the cost and work independently in the same place. Co-working spaces are not just about the physical shared space; many people go to these places to establish working communities. If you travel frequently, you can consider hiring serviced offices on a pay-to-use basis. These offices are fully furnished and available for short-term use.

2. Get a Pet

Working from home social isolation can be combated by owning a pet. You will enjoy the love and attention of an animal, and you will also have a rewarding job of caring for him. Cats and dogs are especially great companions because they will keep nagging you for walks. These walks are social activities on their own as they will help you develop a deeper connection with the pet. With a dog or cat, you will also be able to meet other pet owners and engage in small conversations. Besides going for walks, dogs can reduce your loneliness by engaging you in games like Tug of War and Chase the Light.

3. Get a Social Hobby

Working from home loneliness can be reduced by engaging in a social hobby. It is important to get an activity that involves a lot of communication and social interaction. You don’t have to stick to the activities you have previously enjoyed- you can cultivate a new hobby, regardless of your age. One advantage of getting an interactive hobby is the fact that you will be able to enjoy interesting experiences. Work from home social isolation can make your life stories quite boring. Some social hobbies you can consider include sports like football, basketball, and tennis. Besides reducing boredom, social bobbies can help you learn a new skill.

4. Go Out with Friends

If you are thinking of how to cope with loneliness and isolation when working from home, you should consider going out with your friends. If you are not a fan of nightclubs, you can choose to go to a restaurant or a park. The important thing is to hang out with your friends. Such hangout sessions help you relax and relieve yourself of the stress and tension gathered while working from home. Many people also tend to focus too much on themselves when they are isolated, and hanging out with people can help you think about other people. Your friends are also able to keep you in check. They can frankly tell you where you are going wrong and can also advise you on the best routes to take.

Conclusion

It is important to combat loneliness and isolation when working from home. You can do this by working from a coffee shop, working in a library, or getting a shared working space. Finding a social hobby can also help you develop new connections and relationships. If you already have a group of friends, you should organise occasional outings. Reducing isolation and loneliness will help with productivity improvement.

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Changing Your Life One Book At a Time With These Motivational Books

By jaya

books to read atleast once in a life

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Books have been an essential part of our lives. Be it as a guide, a source of knowledge, a friend and just about any form. They have been there for us when no one could. They have brought about a huge difference in our life. Books are indeed one’s best friend.

books to read atleast once in a life

There are quite a few genres out there and each one is unique in its own way. Most of us has a go-to book. A book that we absolutely loved on the first read and would read it all over again. When it comes down to coping with hard times, a motivational book comes in handy. Sure you might just read any other book to distract yourself. But the one thing that is going to motivate you, other than yourself is a book on motivation. Many of us own a motivational book or two at home. For those of you who don’t, it’s time that you get one, just so you can rely on it to get you going. Worried that some are overpriced? You can always buy the books during the sale, if not that, then you can always use the coupons and deals for books. Save and get to read more.

Motivational books are meant to help you take charge of your life. They always convey or teach you something. Maybe a lesson or two. Maybe they give you a new perspective or maybe they just help you get through the mess you are caught up with at the moment. These book drive readers to change their life. For all those times when you are demotivated give them a read.

This article shall solely focus on top motivational books which will possibly revolutionize your life. Give them a read, get to learn something and maybe share this with someone in need. You can change your life and help another do too.

  1. How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

must read motivational book

Author: Dale Carnegie

In short: Provides you with a set of practical formulas to avoid fatigue, eliminate business worries and how to look your best every day. Tells you the importance of adding one hour to your waking life, to finding and being yourself. Helps you to refrain from worrying about things and actually live in full joy. Read this book to lead a happy life.

  1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

best motivational book to read

Author: Steven R. Covey

In short: The author’s roadmap of 7 habits helps you develop better habits, find solutions to personal/ professional problems, and achieve a great life. All by the means of fairness, integrity, honesty, and dignity.

Quotes from the Motivational book: “Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.”

  1. The Magic of Thinking Big

best motivational book ever

Author: David J. Schwartz

In short: This book is a source of inspiration for all the readers who want to get the most out of their job, marriage, family life and community. The book has a set of useful methods to help you attain success. It says one needs to learn and understand the habit of doing and thinking has a great impact on where you want to lead.

  1. The Power of Positive Thinking: 10 Traits for Maximum Results

motivational and inspirational book

Author: Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

In short: This is an international bestseller that helps people restore belief in faith and inspiration. This book was written to help people achieve happiness and satisfaction in their lives while also believing that their lives are worthwhile. The readers are presented with many techniques to energize one’s life, believe in the power of belief and motivation. It helps one achieve their dreams and hopes.

Quotes from this Motivational book: “Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.”

  1. The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage

life changing books to read

Author: Mel Robbins

In short: Remembering all the support the author has had through his life, be it from his parents, teachers, friends, have pushed him to be stronger. He states that “ what if the secret to success and confidence goes beyond knowing how to push yourself and accepting the support from your peers?”. There is a use of the science of habits, shocking historical facts, stories to explain to the reader the power of “ push moment” and the reader is given with an easy tool to achieve a sense of inner self in this Motivational book.

Special Mentions:

Some of other inspirational and Motivational books to read

  1. You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero
  2. Smarter, Faster, Better: The Secrets of Being Productive in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg
  3. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth
  4. Now, Discover Your Strengths by Marcus Buckingham and Donald Clifton
  5. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
  6. Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins
  7. Hustle: The Power to Change Your Life with Money, Meaning, and Momentum by Neil Patel
  8. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff: Simple Ways To Keep The Little Things From Taking Over Your Life by Richard Carlson
  9. The Mindfulness Journal: Daily Practices, Writing Prompts, and Reflections for Living in the Present Moment by Steve Scott and Barrie Davenport
  10. How to Win Friends & Influence People
  11. Delivering Happiness
  12. Good to Great
  13. The Power of Now
  14. The Secret
  15. Tuesdays with Morrie: An old man, a young man, and life’s greatest lesson.

Hope you liked this list of motivational books. I am sure you might have come across some, the others are worth reading too. Do give these a read and have a positive mindset.


Jaya Dwivedi is all about the good and happy things in life. Gelato and craft-making aren’t her only skills, she also likes to write about things that leave an everlasting impact. She is a Content Writer at GrabOn.

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Stress Relief Tips To Wake Up Fresh in the Morning

By Mich_Rebecca

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Tips to Wake Up Fresh in the Morning Without Stress

Here you will find some stress relief tips that help you wake up fresh in the morning – every morning. Most of us wake up tired, or even very tired in the morning, and this is not good. Managing one’s life and getting appropriate rest will allow us to develop a pattern of waking up every morning fresh and without stress. Stress is a common problem in today’s American culture.

Everyone is in a hurry trying to get everything done every day. Collectively, we are fighting difficult economic times and an uncertain future. It is not easy to face each morning without stress and worry. But, stress is damaging to our mental, physical, and spiritual health. Finding a way to decrease stress, especially when one is just starting the day, will contribute to one’s health and overall well-being.

Organize Daily Responsibilities

One of the most important points of waking up fresh in the morning is organizing our daily responsibilities. By organizing them, managing worries and personal concerns, and practicing good sleep hygiene, we can develop a daily pattern of waking up fresh in the morning without stress.

Most people have a lot of responsibilities they must tend to on a daily basis. There is a common feeling of not having enough hours in the day. If we do not take care of ourselves, however, we will not be present and able to do the things we need to do each day. By organizing our responsibilities, we can gain a sense of mastery and feel competent. One way to accomplish this is by trying a weekly schedule, with daily checklists of tasks that need to be done.

Checking them off as one completes a task, which along with keeping track of their schedule, gives them a sense of accomplishment. This will also greatly decrease any feelings of being overwhelmed. Following this every day will make one feel confident as he or she lays down to go to sleep, knowing they have some control in their life. This feeling will allow a good night’s sleep and contribute to a fresher, stress-free morning.

Manage Worries and Personal Concerns

Unfortunately, everyone must deal with negative emotions from time to time. It is important to not let worries and personal concerns keep one awake at night which will lead to waking up tired in the morning. There are two things to consider regarding this issue.

First, a person should determine whether or not a particular issue is within their control. If he or she can fix the situation, make a plan to do so. If the problem is out of one’s control, and there is nothing he or she can do to fix it, then one needs to understand this.

Secondly, when it is time to go to sleep, it is not the time of day or the place to process the emotions one may be experiencing. One should schedule a time to address these feelings and put them aside at bedtime. By removing worries and personal concerns from one’s mind at bedtime, one may have a more restful sleep and a much better chance at waking up fresh, without stress.

By practicing walking meditation in the evening before going to sleep, you are effectively clearing your head from all those worries and problems that tend to keep you awake. However, it is important that you practice it every day so that meditation becomes a regular part of your life.

Take a Relaxing Bath with Essential Oils

One of the ideal routines to wake up fresh in the morning is to take a nice hot relaxing bath the night before with a well-chosen essential oil blend that help fight stress and fatigue.

A good essential oil bath recipe for stress relief will include a few oils that are particularly selected for their de-stressing properties, such as geranium, which has uplifting properties for the mind, clary-sage, with its mind clearing properties, lemon which also helps with stress relief and of course, lavender, which is perfect for relaxation in the bath, not to mention it is one of the oils that people actually enjoy smelling its fragrance.

There are many recipes for a relaxing bath that you can find online or in various books, and it is a fun exercise to try several of them and then choose the one that really speaks to you.

One of the best books with essential oil blends and recipes for various ailments, including stress relief is the Complete Book Of Aromatherapy by Valerie Ann Worwood, a well-known aromatherapist with years of practical experience using essential oils.

Practice Good Sleep Hygiene

Good sleep hygiene involves several behaviors that contribute to quality sleep, which leads to getting to wake up fresh in the morning. First, you should establish a bedtime that you keep every night, even weekends. Keeping the same sleep and wake times will help you feel healthier and more energetic. Also, the bed should only be used for sleeping.

This means don’t use the bed for lounging, completing projects, watching T.V., eating, or even reading. Having the bed designated only for sleep trains the mind to become sleepy when it is time to lie down at night for sleep.

What you can use is a good alarm clock (can use alarm clocks for adults or kids) that is sure to wake one up in the morning.

Following these guidelines will allow you to develop good sleep hygiene, greatly contributing to how fresh and free of stress you feel in the morning.

You Can Fight The Stress

In today’s world, most people are fighting stress every day, and many are not winning. People know that stress is bad for one’s mental, physical, and spiritual health, but it is difficult to manage so much all of the time.

Waking up fresh, without stress is something everyone desires. But most people assume it is too difficult to achieve or even impossible.

However, if you make a commitment to organize your daily responsibilities, manage your worries and personal concerns, learn to relax using meditation and essential oils, eat healthily, drink lots of water and practice good sleep hygiene, you can wake up every day fresh in the morning, with no stress. And, in turn, you can live a healthier and more fulfilled life.


Mich Rebacca is a great fan of sleep education programs like Best Mattress Reviews. She provides educational insights and data relevant to every individual connected to health care industry.

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Self-Preservation: How to Work with a Narcissist

By ANNIE BUTTON

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Working with a narcissist is very difficult and given that we are living through a narcissistic epidemic, you probably work alongside one. If you let the behaviour of a full-blown narcissist get to you, it can wear you down, ruin your working life and impact on your mental well-being, both in and outside of work!

Self-preservation is key when you are spending long periods of time with someone who is so self-centred, they couldn’t give two hoots about you.

The first thing you need to do is understand how a narcissist operates. Then you can work on keeping the behaviours of your narcissistic colleague at arms’ length. You’ll be pleased to learn that while it’s unlikely you will change your colleague’s narcissistic tendencies, there are some things you can do to prevent his or her actions doing you psychological harm.

One thing is for sure. If you are working with a narcissist, you are probably working for a business with a toxic culture. Let’s take a look at the behaviours of a narcissist and how they impact on people in the workplace. If you feel powerless to change a toxic culture, looking for a new job might be your only option.

What exactly is a narcissistic personality?

Firstly, there are varying degrees of narcissism, but you can usually spot a narcissist a mile off. Full-bodied narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is actually rarely diagnosed by trained psychologists or psychiatrists. However, narcissistic personality traits are common and some can be found in many people to a greater or lesser degree.

Some narcissists are actually quite fun to hang out with, albeit occasionally. You probably know someone who likes to hold court and tell funny stories. They probably have a few narcissistic tendencies. But when narcissistic tendencies become unhealthy, such a person can become obnoxious to work with.

There are lots of tell-tale signs of a narcissistic personality. Here are some of them:

  • A grandiose sense of importance
  • Preoccupation with own success
  • Believe self to be special
  • Strong sense of entitlement
  • A need for excessive praise and admiration
  • Exploit others
  • Lack empathy
  • Arrogant
  • Jealous of others
  • Can’t take criticism, though heavily criticise others

How might narcissistic tendencies show themselves at work?

Almost all workplaces have at least one person who is slightly self-obsessed. At first the office narcissist can appear charming and charismatic, but you’ll soon get to grips with the fact that your colleague (or worse, boss) is concerned only with themselves. Incidentally, narcissists are more likely to be leaders and a moderate amount of narcissism can be a positive in business.

However, narcissism can easily hurt others and have a negative impact on business culture.

At work, extreme narcissists are only concerned with being at the top or being right. They need constant attention and validation and feel superior to their colleagues. Narcissists have a great need for control and take the credit for everything. They will also blame others for their own mistakes and can’t bear criticism.

They will hog the spotlight and dominate meetings, reminding the team of their accomplishments. Narcissists are also namedroppers, so they’ll be boosting their prestigious status by telling the whole office who they mingle with.

Perhaps the worst character trait of your narcissistic colleague is that they will steal or take disproportional credit for yours and other colleagues hard work and ideas. These are very frustrating people to work alongside, especially when that person is your boss. They will always cut corners and take advantage of the good nature of the people they work with. They truly think they are above the rules.

Some narcissists will display passive-aggressive behaviour and may over-accentuate weakness and victimhood to elicit sympathy. They can be gossips, sarcastic and often put others down.

One minute you will be your narcissistic colleague’s best friend, the next minute they will hate you (especially if you disappoint them).

How to work with a narcissist

The first thing you have to do when working with a narcissist is accept is that you are never going to change their personality. That may feel defeatist, but you don’t have to resign yourself to a life of misery at work. There are things you can do to minimise the impact your narcissistic colleague has on you.

  • Don’t be attracted to his or her charisma – they will have no loyalty to you
  • Don’t be drawn into competition with them or be tempted to get even
  • Never react with anger towards this person
  • Avoid challenging a narcissist
  • Have confidence in your own abilities and document your achievements at work
  • Don’t share personal opinions or give personal information to the narcissist
  • Understand your employment rights – harassment is unacceptable under the Equality Act 2010
  • Maintain your own self-esteem
  • Study them and play the game – if you know what the deal- breakers are, you can keep under the radar and predict how they will behave
  • Set your own boundaries and don’t doubt yourself
  • Compliment them
  • Remember narcissistic behaviour is dysfunctional – recognise the toxic dynamics

Dealing with extreme narcissistic behaviour isn’t easy and if you are faced with an unbearable situation at work, it may be time to move on. An extremely narcissistic boss could cause you a lot of emotional and professional damage if you get on the wrong side of them.

Unfortunately, as narcissists will have established a charming relationship with any people in your organisation who have power over them, it is unlikely you will find the support to deal with them appropriately. It’s not impossible to work with a narcissist, but it is challenging.


Annie Button is a Portsmouth based writer and recent graduate. Annie likes to share her experiences and knowledge through her blog posts and has written for various online and print publications. When she’s not writing Annie likes cooking healthy new recipes and relaxing with a good book’. Twitter: Annie Button

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Why I took a break from Facebook?

By Raziakuvale

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Facebook, a social networking platform founded by Mark Zuckerberg has around 2.2 billion monthly active users as of January 2018 (source Wikipedia). I joined Facebook in October 2007, and I was compulsively posting every minute detail of my life. From birthday wishes to photo albums with my friends and family.

I joined Facebook because you had to be on it or there was FOMO! Over the next few years, I was on Facebook for the sole reason that social media was now my bread and butter. I was a social media marketer, creating Facebook pages for clients and writing social media posts to grab the user’s attention.

I was addicted to it – followed thousands of brands, tried and tested every app and developed app ideas myself. I didn’t realize it was seeping into my life and taking control of the person that I was.

Being into social media marketing, I was having sleepless night wondering about the number of likes on a client’s page or how I could increase the interaction on a particular post. I was researching social media apps and analytics platforms to make the most of the medium.

Apart from work life, I used Facebook to share every damn thing about my personal life. I lost my mother to Cancer in 2012. I used it as a medium to grieve, to share my feelings and sometimes even to talk to my mother.

My friends and family would reply to every post and picture, sending across their heartfelt condolences. But that was it. I never met any of my “friends” nor did they meet me.

I gradually began drifting away from the medium. But was on it only for the occasional sharing of my mother’s recipes (My sisters and I created a Facebook page where we share my Mum’s recipes.).

Here’s how staying away from Facebook restored my life:

I got back my sanity: I was not losing it on the number of likes, shares and comments. A sense of peace prevailed over me. And I was able to have a good night’s sleep.

I was able to devote my time to other interests: Facebook was no more dominating my life. I was pursuing my hobbies and exploring other areas of interest. I returned to blogging (which I had explored much before Facebook got me hooked) and posting reviews of my favorite movies and books – they made me so much happier.

I stayed away from comparisons: Facebook and the world of social media make us live a virtual world that we aspire for. A materialistic world with a luxury vacation, dining in the finest restaurants, and branded possessions. It’s never worth it – trying to live somebody else’s life or publicizing your personal life.

I got back to my journal: Writing a journal is what I have always done since my school days. It’s a place where I get to share my innermost feelings without being judged or commented on. And most of all, the joy of writing with a pen is out of this world :)

I was able to keep my personal life private: It’s daunting to post your personal life and reveal so much of you to the world that you sometimes begin to question your purpose. Anonymity is a privilege, a gift that we should learn to accept. Opening your life to the world can be stressful as it comes with negativity, unrealistic expectations, and unforgiving comparisons.

If you’re spending too much time on social media or compulsively scrolling through your feed, it’s time to go on a social media detox.

Did you enjoy a wonderful vacation in Hawaii? Are you a mother? Try keeping these lifetime experiences private. Go offline. Take a break from social media. Shut out the noise. Reconnect with yourself and your family.

Let us know if you have ever taken a break from any of the social media platforms and how it has helped you live in the moment.

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Being the Leader of Your Life

By Laleh Hancock

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The simple definition of “leader” is someone in command of, or the main player in, a group or organization.

I have a slightly different point of view. I see true leadership as being the change you desire to see in the world. It isn’t about having followers, telling people what is right or wrong, or having the answers. Great leaders’ function from a “global wellness” view, where the well-being of all is included in the choices made. And, most importantly, “all” includes you.

To lead your life from including you in the picture, here are 6 elements you need to consider:

Stop putting yourself last

We are willing to see the greatness in others and treat them with regard, but rarely do the same for ourselves.

What change do you desire to see in the world? More kindness? Happiness? Joy? Laughter? Financial empowerment? People nurturing, caring and having gratitude for themselves and each other? Loving their body? Acknowledging their brilliance?

Ready to walk your talk and desire the same for you? Have some honest reflection, and ask:

  • Do I treat myself with the same regard I treat others?
  • What would it be like if I treated myself the way I desire others to treat themselves?

Allow others to contribute to you… and even better, ask!
Being a leader not about proving you can do it on your own, or only asking for help when there’s a problem. Can you truly be a leader for a greater, more inclusive world, if you don’t let the world in?

Being willing to ask for, and receive the contribution of others is a gift to the planet, because by adding other energies to your creations, they have the capacity to become something far greater than even you could predict.

Each day, ask:

  • Who or what could I add to my life that would contribute to me?
  • What have I been unwilling to ask for, that if I did, would make my world greater?

Trust you
How often do you judge your capacity to make a difference, rather than believe in you? Without trust in you, you cannot fully value and embrace your unique difference. Listening to your gut instincts and innate awareness, rather than what others believe is right, is key to true self-leadership and will lead you to accomplish more and greater.

Create greater self-trust with these daily questions:

What do I know is possible that no one else does?
What would be created if I was willing to trust and follow my instincts and choose what works for me?

Nurture your body
Your body is your constant companion. It goes everywhere you do, it allows you to experience the world with its wonderful senses, and it constantly gives you new information and insights. Being a leader with your body is not about telling it what to do, but being willing to include its needs and desires. Don’t wait for issues such as stress, anxiety, injuries or illness to let you know it is time to change something.

Prioritize and include your body’s well-being and do something that nurtures your body every day, such as moving your body, spending time in nature, and including nurturing touch, like massage or even a hug!

Create financial wellness
Are you willing to challenge limited perspectives to expand your financial future? Being a leader includes taking the lead with your finances. Educate yourself about money. Create financial clarity. Be willing to have money (is it easier to change the world with or without money?) and seek revenue possibilities.

Here are key questions to lead your life in creation of financial wellness:

  • What is my exact current income and expenditure?
  • How much revenue must I create per year to have the life I desire?
  • Where can I put my money today to create more money now and in the future?

Be willing to create a future that doesn’t yet exist
The greatest leaders are those whose vision extends far beyond what is currently seen as normal, possible or real. They know that through their actions, they can bring to fruition things that don’t exist yet.

Key to this is having unlimited curiosity. Remain curious by developing a mindset of:

  • What else is possible I have not yet considered?
  • How does it get any better than this?
  • What future am I capable of creating that I have never acknowledged?

We all have the ability to look at the world and see how each choice we make can contribute to our lives and others. We empower ourselves with our willingness to include all people and perspectives. Imagine a world where nothing and no one is judged and all is acknowledged and valued—including every part of you. Is that the kind of life you would like to lead?

Laleh Hancock is a transformational facilitator and business coach with more than 25 years of experience building companies and individuals that win. She is the founder and president of Global Wellness for All. Whether partnering with a Fortune 500 company or an entrepreneurial stay home mum, Laleh is dedicated to empowering people and organizations of all ages and stages to grow and expand. Laleh is a certified Facilitator for Access Consciousness, including Being You, a specialty program of Access Consciousness. She meets people where they are and provides practical tools to empower people to create more joy, ease and possibilities in life. Laleh served on the Governor’s Maryland Caregivers Support Coordinating Council for four years. Follow on Twitter at @Belapemo.

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Neuroplasticity- Botox for the Brain?

By cara hewett

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The term Neuroplasticity is the hope of the future of every human on the planet and yet, few people have even heard of it, and fewer actually know what it means. Why is it important? Simply, the theories of neuroplasticity have the capacity to change everything we know about living a happier and healthier life. It’s the holy grail of the human experience.

Breakthroughs in neuroscience over the last decade have produced an understanding that indeed, we can alter our own brain’s physical structure. Basically, the brain is able to re-wire itself. Science now reveals that brain cells are able to regenerate, making new connections thereby forming new neuronal pathways.

These findings are proving we can change our own emotional states as well as heal our own physical bodies. All we need is something we all have, our brains.

Neuroplasticity means changes in the synapses of the brain structure, basically, the brain is malleable. Thought formations occur within the brain structure. These thoughts travel along the synapses much like an electric current traveling down a wire. Science refers to this as feedback loops. These feedback loops consist of thoughts, stored in the form of memory. Interestingly, the brain seeks for matches that line up with its current experience of reality. In other words, the same thoughts are attracted to other similar thoughts. It finds these connections and attaches to it, forming patterns. These patterns of thinking and behaving are all relative to prior and current life experiences. When new input or knowledge is learned and practiced, new patterns are formed.

We have always known that repetition of anything, such as playing a musical instrument leads to the mastery of it. But repetition of negative self- harming patterning is learned as well. An example of a negative pattern could be a repetitive reaction to fear, such as panic attacks, or even an addictive behavior. It could be said that those with addiction have achieved mastery of their negative patterns.

It also known that world class athletes have mastered their own patterns as well. In essence, they have rewired their neuronal pathways to produce flawless golf swings and tennis shots.

Researchers in the field of psychology are understanding how the same concepts can be applied to the study of behavior.

The following is a small sample of mental exercises found to assist in the forming of new neuronal pathways.

  • Slowing of brain wave frequencies- practicing deep states of meditation on a regular basis. This allows for the practice of quieting the mind-chatter, allowing for focus and concentration.
  • Creative Visualization-Using detailed imagery to create new experiences. These experiences could be real or imagined.
  • Invoking of emotion- Emotions are felt within the body. The mind speaks in the language of the senses. It is important to feel with all of the senses, to experience it as if it is actually happening.
  • Repetition- As stated, practice is the key, the mind must learn to form the connection through recurrence of the desired intention.

Research has given us an understanding of how we can literally change our minds. We are no longer the victims of our past circumstances. In fact, with dedication and perseverance, we have the ability to actively own and heal our brains; changing the filter by which we view ourselves and others. The results are immeasurable. Neuroplasticity is truly the most important neuroscientific discovery of modern times.

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7 Ways to Save Money For Young Adults While In College

By Delan_Cooper

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College may be the first time that many young adults will start having to manage their own life and money. For some, it may be the first time they actually have their own money to manage. This makes college a great time to start developing good money saving habits. Learning how to get into the habit of saving money is just as important at this time as learning how to budget or spend money wisely. Here are 7 great tips on how to start saving money in college.

1. Free is Always the Best

While there is nothing wrong with dropping $100 or more on tickets to your favourite band or other events, making this a weekly or monthly habit is not a good idea. Learn to be on the lookout for free or discounted prices on events and save your big dollars for just a few of the events you want most to attend.

2. Always be on the Lookout for Side Gigs

Whether it’s participating in a research study, delivering flowers on Valentine’s day or selling items you no longer use on the internet, there are almost always ways to earn a little extra cash here and there. If you are into an online business just make sure you understand everything from website hosting types to online marketing. While you may not want to juggle more than one part-time job while you are in school, always be on the lookout for ways to earn a few extra dollars here and there. Over time, those few extra dollars can really add up.

3. Create a Budget and Stick with It

It’s never too early to start budgeting money. This is particularly true if you receive a large lump sum of money at the beginning of a semester that may have to last you several months or if your income is sporadic. If nothing else, it’s always a good idea to write down all of your base expenses so you know the minimum amount of money you need each month to live on. From there you can budget things like food, clothes, personal items and other expenses.

4. Always Sock Away a Percentage of Your Income

Whether you make $10 from driving a friend to the airport or $100 a week from a part-time job, always put a percentage of your income in savings. Whether you save quarters in a gallon jug, dollars in your sock drawer or invest in an IRA, saving money is an important habit to get into. While it may seem somewhat silly to save 10% of your income when you only make $300 or $400 a month, the important thing is to get into the habit of setting aside a portion of every dollar that comes in.

5. Write Down Every Dollar You Spend

One of the first things most financial planners will tell you is that you need to know where your money is going. Spending $5 on a latte may not seem like much, but when you add that up over the course of a month, you may realize you spent nearly $500 just on coffee alone. Writing down every dollar that you spend will help you understand exactly where all your money is going and help you make better decisions about how to spend (and save) it.

6. Use Cash

Studies have shown again and again that people spend less money when they use cash over credit. The reason for this is a psychological disconnect between seeing the actual currency and just swiping a card. When you use cash instead of credit, you will naturally and inherently spend less money and the less you spend, the more you save.

7. Shop in Person First, Then Check Deals Online

While you can often get better deals on the internet than in a standing store, internet shopping often makes purchasing too easy, which can lead to overspending. One of the main keys to saving money is spending less money. If you make it a habit to physically go to a store when you need something and then check online prices after, you will be making more conscientious choices about what to spend your money on. One of the main things to avoid when it comes to saving money is unconscious spending. The more you are aware of exactly how, where, when and what you are spending your money on, the less likely you are to spend it frivolously.

Saving money does not only make you proud of yourself, in addition, but you can also treat yourself with a wonderful trip to see the world more or even register for a profitable course or improve your talent by joining an art class.

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