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Become a 141 to Achieve Massive Success in Life and at Work

By iboumiza

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In life, there are three types of peoples according to how they react to events in their life, they’re:

  • those who make things happen
  • those who watch things happen
  • and those who wonder what happens

My goal in life is to never be in the third category and anytime I found myself in the second one, I do whatever it takes to move to the first category (100% pure hustle mode on) and I lock myself in a continuous improvement process that never ends

In order to achieve that, I use a secret formula that I built for myself, and once I saw that it never failed me in delivering the outcomes I was looking for, I decided to experiment it on few of my mentees, and to my joy, it works wonder!

Now that I’m convinced that I built a solid framework to success, I want to share it, watch others gaining the same benefits as I did and know that I made a difference by giving the tools to accomplish a fulfilled life

My Framework to success, code name 141, is a simple formula that I use in my everyday life

141 = 33% + 10X + 97 + 1%

So let’s dig in what these numbers mean:

1 – The Law of 33%

One of the pillars of my professional framework is the Law of 33%, I’ve been following this principle since 2013 and it boosted my success growth, it’s a three phases process that needs to be followed each day to see the phenomenal success it will generate

Tai Lopez cover it perfectly in his TedX Talk The Law of 33%

Spend 33% Of Your Time With People That You Inspire To Be

These are the people at the level you want to be in the future, these are the people that if you achieve 10% of their success you will consider yourself a success, but how can you make it happen? Creativity my friend!

  • When was the first time you invited a successful business owner for a dinner at your expense?
  • When was the last time you worked for free for a successful business owner and in return, you asked for a 15-30mn mentorship
  • When was the last time you bought a book of a highly successful business owner in which you will get years of trials and errors with the solution to each problem faced?

Spend 33% Of Your Time With People At Your Level

These are the people at your current level, you need to maintain a regular contact with them so you’re always up to date on what’s impacting you and your work now

Socializing, sharing knowledge and reading business related books are the smartcuts for this category to compress the time learning skills to remain relevant

Spend 33% Of Your Time With People That Are Inspiring To Be At Your Level

These are the people that need your wisdom and experience to climb the ladder as you did, they may not contribute to your growth directly, but mentorship enhances skills as leadership, communication, goal setting and a sense of purpose that will complete the fulfillment circle

2 – The 10X Rule

Basically, any goal, ambition, dream or action need to be ten times what you planned. Period.

In his book Grant Cardone The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure, explain that having a 10X mindset will unlock the ability to deconstruct any process you need to follow to achieve anything in life and rebuild it with a ten times outcome objective, and in the end you will find a vehicle that accelerates your growth and success

The reason I like using the 10X Rule is that it gives me a guaranteed outcome, just think about it, the path to achieving ten times what you already planned is not the same, forcing you to get out of your comfort zone and reach levels you never thought you could attain or do before; And as a result, whatever it is, it will always be higher than the originally planned…

3 – Be a 97

97/100 is your minimum uniqueness and attractiveness score in the industry you’re in, this is how you know you can achieve your planned massive success in an age of Attention and big focus on Return-On-Investment

Hollywood is the perfect example for this, take the example of the franchise The Fast & The Furious, it’s a billion-dollar series thanks to Vin Diesel, his appearance in such big movies guarantee high payout for the producers (you can read more ‘Fate Of The Furious’ Makes Vin Diesel A $6 Billion Man In 2017)

Hollywood is filled with actors below 97 score that are ghosts and never achieve their dreams, the main reason for that is competition

Competition nowadays is so dense that being an average is a curse and only the hustlers and people that succeeded in creating something unique about themselves will make it

(read this good discussion Why is Los Angeles referred to as “The City of Broken Dreams”?)

4 – Make progress 1% at a time

If each day, you sleep knowing that you improved your knowledge, skills, wisdom or workout at a rate of 1% per day, it will take you just 72 days to be twice better

Imagine every 72 days you become twice wiser, just imagine the possibilities and opportunities that will open in front of you, literally, the world will be yours!

So, how did I applied codename 141 to my personal and professional life?

The Law of 33%:

  • Anytime at my work, I scope the environment around me, draft a list of quick wins that we can implement that will result in financial gains and share it with my leaders
  • I make a commitment to make them happen in the agreed timeline and in exchange I ask for more complex assignments and a VIP coaching
  • Among my colleagues, I always start the self-improvement and life fulfillment discussion, and once I find a candidate that is open to change and hustle, I provide him with the necessary mentorship to ensure a positive change, promotion or pivotal change in his life

The 10X Rule:

  • I joined small elite mastermind groups with members at levels way above me so I can learn how to build 10X systems to obtain 10X outcomes
  • In one of my projects, the best way to achieve the expected benefits was to re-engineer the existing process to make it lean and implement a proprietary CRM to manage workflow and communication across the team, unfortunately we didn’t have the funds to buy or build in-house the system, so I spent my days working on the process and my night learning a new programming language until I was able to build, train and implement my new CRM to the team

Be A 97:

  • I make sure that anytime I get a new position or contract, I quickly become a Subject Matter Expert, a Go-To-Point-Of-Contact and among the few that can solve complex problems, and that increases my Uniqueness and Attractiveness score

1% Progress:

  • I read business related books, articles, papers, news every day
  • I listen to business podcasts every week
  • I watch business documentaries and movies once a month

Time planning is critical to this part to ensure I keep being consistent and double my wisdom every 72 days

Now that you know my secret solid and proven Framework to Success, grab it, model it to your needs and take massive actions

See you at the top

Yassine

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7 Ways to be a Positive Person

By William Grigsby

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Want seven easy fixes to become a positive person? Few people are willing to go on a spiritual journey to become a positive person because at times it seems like a tremendous amount of work. Inspired by Jim Carrey who spent years on his spiritual journey, why not learn what he has to teach and save yourself years of searching? Here are the seven ways to be a positive person. (You need all seven to be a truly positive person, but point 1 and point 7 are the most important.)

1 – Gratitude Is Your Most Neglected Tool

Want to be positive all the time? Learn how to be grateful. People who are grateful are positive almost semi-continuously because they appreciate what they have. They appreciate the fact they can draw breath without pain, that they can eat, that people love them, and that they have the capacity to think and grow.

Ingratitude is actually the source of most misery in the world. People would not steal if they were grateful what what they had earned, and people would not cheat on their spouses if they were grateful for their love. It is very difficult to remain positive if you are miserable, and misery is caused by ingratitude.

2 – Don’t Make A Point Of Being Positive, But Make A Point Of Pulling Yourself Out Of Being Negative

They say the best way to spot a liar is to look for signs a person is telling the truth rather than trying to look for signs that the person is lying. Take a similar back-to-front approach when it comes to being positive. Pull yourself out of a negative funk rather than trying to be positive all the time.

Both Sean Stephenson and Tony Robbins say that they overcame their darkest days by allowing themselves to feel sad and negative, but not allowing themselves to stay in that position.

3 – Ask Yourself What You Have Learned From Every Event

It is difficult pulling yourself out of a negative funk. You may not feel like plastering your face with a fake smile or looking on the bright side. If that is the case, it is time to get intellectual about the situation and ask yourself what you can learn from recent events. What you learn may not help you in the future, but it certainly will not hurt you. Force yourself to learn from what has just happened, even if all that you learn is that life tries to trip you from time-to-time.

4 – Believe But Verify Rather Than Being A Tireless Skeptic

Part of being positive is learning to look on the bright side, but the world is a harsh and dangerous place where looking on the bright side may leave you in danger. We are skeptical by nature because our minds are looking for danger. Instead of losing your skepticism, you need to believe but verify.

If your daughter says she is going to sleep at her friends all night, then believe her and send her on her way, but verify what she said either beforehand, or after. Don’t forget that you can verify after an event, and you can do it casually. For example, you may see your daughter’s friend when she drops her daughter off at school, where you can walk over, say hi, and say, “I hope my girl wasn’t too much of a pest when she slept over at yours on Saturday.

5 – Pray To A Creator

Follow a religion if you wish, or pray to whatever it is you think created our universe. Pray with nothing more than a thank you for your existence. Don’t treat your prayers like a Christmas wish list, simply pray by saying thank you and maybe list the things you are specifically thankful for.

Before god haters start ripping this article apart on the comments section, this point is not pushing any sort of religion, you can make your own religion up if you wish, and the creator you choose can simply be an entity that humans are unable to define.

How does praying to a creator help make you a more positive person? Not only do you receive a divine sense of unexplainable warmth, you also take the focus off you and your problems and turn your attention to “Life.”

6 – A Slap On The Wrist Whenever You Do Not Look On The Bright Side

Some people are negative by default. They always look on the nasty and dark side because that is what they are used to. The idea of being optimistic appears girly, silly, weak, or childish. If you find yourself looking on the dark side, then slap yourself on the wrist. Actually give yourself a physical representation of your choice to stop being negative.

Whenever you notice yourself taking a negative path, slap yourself on the wrist because it will create a series of habitual memories in your mind that force your brain to take notice whenever you are negative. It makes it more difficult for you to be negative by accident or by default. This is not a punishment, it is a way of helping your mind recognize when you are being negative by default.

7 – Love, Money, Compassion And Equality Does Not Defeat Evil – Courage Defeats Evil

The most obvious question is, “How can I be positive in a world so rotten?” The answer is “Courage.” People may tell you that love will save the world, or understanding will change the world, or that people are good by nature and it is just their surroundings that make them bad. All of this is lies. If you want to live in a world where you proud to be positive, then be courageous and reward others for being courageous. Be proud of your courage, even if it puts you at physical risk.

A person who seeks out racists is not courageous, but a person who speaks out against something wrong even at the “risk” of being “called” racist is courageous. A sexually assaulted woman is not courageous if she forgives her attacker, but she is courageous if she presses charges, stands in the courtroom, and refuses to allow the man to get away with his crimes. A courageous person is not somebody who tries to fight a pitiful person, it is the person who dives into a pitiful fight to try to break it up.

Courage is powerful, and when courage is added to gratitude, you have all you need to be a positive and happy person.

William Grigsby is an HR expert at assignmentmasters. His passion is to show that each person is unique and can independently achieve success by applying efforts every day.William was writing in this space for 2 successful years.

Feel free to follow him on Twitter @willgrgsb

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3 Little-Known Benefits of Gratitude That Naturally Boost Confidence

By Laura

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That’s where it’s at, right?

That effortless ease some others have.

You know, they seem to glide through their day, deftly juggling all kinds of awkward situations.

Getting on. Getting ahead.

Looking good.

Doing great.

But how do they do it?

Because it can feel nigh on impossible sometimes to have that ease, that self-possession and self-confidence.

The kind that turns heads.

How do they do that?

It’s simple really.

And it’s nothing to do with genes, natural intelligence or ability.

They simply feel good… about themselves.

Hold up. That’s sounds obvious, asinine even.

I thought so too. Until I found my ease, my own self-possession and confidence.

But I don’t know if you’re ready for the answer.

It sounds too left of center. Too simple. And too ethereal to have any real impact.

Yeah, that’s what I used to think too.

But then I discovered that gratitude is life-changing. And no more so than in the area of personal confidence.

Here are three ways gratitude naturally boosts your confidence;

1.Higher Self-Esteem

Have you noticed that how you feel about yourself affects everything you do?

It makes your day go great, or not so great, depending on how highly you rate your self-worth. Tricky situations are many times more difficult to deal with if your inner voice is whispering negative or critical comments to you.

Heck, even your routine day is harder to manage with a fault-finding, gremlin constantly carping on. Nothing you do seems good enough and everyone else seems to be doing way better… at everything.

But what has gratitude got to do with self-esteem?

Surely it’s about appreciating others, good fortune that comes our way and the other positive aspects of our lives?

Yes. But that’s far from all of it.

Practicing gratitude also includes appreciating all of your qualities, attributes and abilities. It includes recognizing all that’s great and good in you. And valuing the incredible contributions you make each and every day.

What a fabulous way to build and maintain healthy self-esteem! And there’s more…

Gratitude is shown to boost self-esteem by decreasing envy. Rather than begrudging where others have more – money, success, friends for instance – being thankful for what you have allows you to simply be happy for them.

Let gratitude naturally boost your confidence by helping you cultivate strong self-esteem

2. Better Relationships

Do you find yourself drawn to negative people who don’t appreciate kindness or good fortune?

No? Neither do other positive, thankful people. They’re drawn to like-minded souls, like you.

Gratitude makes you more positive, more upbeat, And that means positive, upbeat people feel better around you. You light up their day. Your recognition of all the good things the day brings, gives them a boost as well.

And grateful people are much more likely to find aspects of other people’s character or personality they like and appreciate. Which means relationships of all kinds flourish the better.

And none more so than in those very important, close personal relationships.

Grateful people say ‘thank you’ more often and are also much less negative and critical of their partners, especially face to face. This has been shown to extend the satisfaction and length of the relationship on both sides.

Let gratitude strengthen your relationships at all levels. Strong, secure relationships breed strong, secure self-confidence.

3. A Greater Sense of Belonging

Did you know that practicing gratitude can make you feel a valuable part of where you live?

Appreciating all the great things about where your home is located goes way beyond just making you feel safe and secure.

Those who practice gratitude feel close to their community and give 20% more of their time and money. They have a strong a connection with those around them and experience less loneliness or feelings of isolation.

And loneliness and isolation breed self-doubt and low self-esteem.

Let gratitude give you a sense of community, a sense of confidence built on a sense of belonging.

Boost your confidence naturally with gratitude.

Life is so much easier when you feel at ease with yourself.

Self-assurance gets your back in every situation. It lets you walk tall, with poise and grace.

And confidence, that’s the ultimate air ride in life. It lets you glide where you previously stumbled.

Who would ever have thought gratitude has such an enormous and far-reaching part to play in attaining those magical qualities. The ones that seemed so impossible to grasp.

Ready to get on? Get ahead?

With Gratitude you’ll be looking good. Doing great.

And you’ll be the one turning heads.


Laura Tong is a regular contributor on The Huff Post and other top blogs. Laura’s latest book, The Life-Changing Power of Gratitude is available on Amazon here.

Laura is Editor at Write To Done, one of the top writing blogs on the net and assistant Editor at Goodlife ZEN, one of the most respected self-improvement blogs. Grab her free cheat sheet: 5 Guilt Free Ways To Say No Without Offending Anyone (Even If You Hate Conflict)

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Erin’s Things: December 5

By Erin Falconer

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This week I’m sharing everything from the stars to the best place to do sit-ups! Want to find out what made me smile last week – read on – and if you have anything cool you’d like to share please leave your finds in the comments below or DM me!

UNIVERSE – EXPLORING THE ASTRONOMICAL WORLD – Need a new coffee table book that leaves you full of wonder and inspiration? Move over quirky photo book, here comes the motherlode book on man’s journey through the universe. Everything from ancient cave paintings to animation, this book is thoroughly engrossing for everyone. 300 images depicting the stars, planets and more, an international panel of experts comment on facts as well as the beauty and mystery of our universe. Paintings, photographs, animation, sculptures, sketches and digital renderings display the work of renowned artists. You won’t be shoving this one into a random heap of books in a few years, this one is a keeper.

KAYLA ITSINES – Work out much? Need to do more? Global fitness expert Kayla Itsines has designed a ‘do anywhere’ type of workout that helps us fit it in, no matter how busy, or tired we may be. The key is to raise your heat rate and let your whole body feel the burn. Focusing on you legs, butt and core will give you the most efficient use of your short time to workout. Squats, planks and twists can be anywhere! So, let’s get moving into an excuse free fitness routine.

THE DESERT BOX – Subscription boxes are having a moment, yes, but some of them are not likely to fade into obscurity. Like this one, where you can purchase a box that comes filled with beautiful succulents and cactuses. Offering quarterly or monthly plants, you can now order them with a repurposed planter, soil, moss, plant care card, and white pebbles for decorative use. These plants are easy to care for and lend beauty to all types of home décor. And if you have too many already, gift it!

WINE N DINE – This is not just another app, this instagram style food discovery platform has added a feature that allows its users to swipe let or right on dishes and make mote of the ones they can try in their area. Bumble for foodies, I suppose. It is called the ‘swipe to discover’ feature and it allows viewers to see which are approved and which aren’t, saving time and money when choosing between the Ramen or the pizza. And the best part, you’re never left feeling rejected…

    Have a great week!
    Erin

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5 Quick Steps to Change Any Behavior

By Elke

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As a zoologist by training, I developed the Emotional Mastery techniques found in my new book Change from Within from studying wild animals. Out of this research, and the main way this work differs from other self-help philosophies, is that I don’t believe our thoughts control our behavior. Our belief systems, often unconsciously, are our true behavioral dictators. Our thoughts (like our words) are good indicators of our beliefs, but if you just focus on changing how you think without addressing the underlying beliefs, your efforts will only be a surface “band aid” solution, and the unhealthy behavior will eventually reassert itself.

If you want a genuine long-term fix for unhealthy behaviors, you have to change the underlying beliefs that are triggering your actions. Thankfully we have a built-in guidance system for uncovering our belief systems. How we feel. Our emotional body is like a weather vane for all of our beliefs. Change how you FEEL and you will change how you behave.

Unfortunately, we spend years in school being taught to think and never one lesson in how to feel, which leaves us at a disadvantage when it comes to empowering ourselves emotionally. The following steps will show you how to flex your emotional muscles so you can start to see long term results, and change from the inside out.

Here are 5 quick steps to transform any unhealthy behavior by changing the underlying emotional hooks:

1. Start by paying attention to how you feel. Before, during and after the behavior, what was your emotional state? If this is an old pattern, you will probably struggle to stay conscious of how you feel before or during, but afterwards think back on your actions. How does it make you feel? Write it down.

2. Go below the “surface” emotions you wrote down, to identify the underlying insecurity. For example, say you feel like an idiot or are embarrassed by your behavior, the root insecurity might be “I feel like a loser” or “I feel I’m not good enough”. To get the most out of this process dig deep and be brutally honest about your insecurities.

3. Say out loud “I accept I feel … “ and name the insecurities from step 2. Contrary to what you may think, acceptance doesn’t make things worse; it’s simply the honest acknowledgment of where you are at. In order for this Emotional Mastery process to work, we have to be in true acceptance. (Refusing to accept how we feel is like walking into the emergency room and refusing to tell the doctors where it hurts, but still expecting them to make us better.)

4. Look for the gifts or wisdom of feeling this insecurity. As I say in workshops “every negative emotion has something positive to teach us”. If you’re really struggling with this step, how are you a better person for knowing how it feels to experience this? Hint: are you more compassionate? Understanding? Patient?

5. Stop beating yourself up for your behavior and start thanking this part of you for trying to make you a better person. This disempowering behavior is actually teaching you to be more compassionate, understanding, patient, etc. Once we see it as a gift instead of a curse, we get into appreciation, one of the highest vibrational states we hold.

Congratulations! You’ve just transformed the emotion attached to your unhealthy behavior from self-abuse to appreciation, aka self-love. There are two schools of motivation: one of abuse and one of encouragement (another aspect of self-love). Which one do you think gets healthy, long-term results? Only after processing the underlying emotional hook of the insecurity into a positive, can we then “pre-pave” an empowering and healthy course of action. In your mind’s eye now visualize how you wish you’d behaved instead. Get really specific and pay attention to how you would feel as you played out this new behavior. When a similar situation arises in the future (and it will) you can then start practicing your empowering, healthy new action.

If you want to understand and practice this transformational process in more detail, read Change from Within: A Journal of Exercise and Meditations to Transform, Empower, and Reconnect.

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How to Build Confidence and have Better Conversations

By Luke Doyle

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Here’s a little secret: many, many people find conversation difficult. And the ones that think they find it easy, well – aren’t they the conversationalists who we so often find dull or irritating because they have no sense of self-censorship?

Learning to constructively criticize your own social skills while recognizing the value and pleasure that can come from meaningful conversation is a powerful way of making a big impact on your life, and those people with whom you share it.

What’s beautiful about conversation is that it takes at least two people to have one (unless you’re really in a quandary about something and like to debate things with yourself!). This means that if you lack self-confidence and are hesitant to focus too much on your own conversation game, you can start by reflecting outwards and engaging in chat in more subtle ways. The key to great conversation, after all, is not speaking – but listening. Work on your listening and non-verbal communication skills first, and the art of dialogue will follow.

Listening starts with giving your full attention. That means putting down phones and other devices and making eye contact with the person that you’re speaking with. Think about how babies react to eye contact: it is a fundamental part of conveying trust, attention, and togetherness.

And believe it or not, you need to learn to listen with your eyes. All sorts of statistics abound as to what percentage of communication is visual versus verbal, but a pretty convincing case has been made that 55% of meaning is conveyed by facial expression, 38% from voice tone, and just 7% from the words used. If you’ve been glued to your phone the last few years, just think how much ‘meaning’ you’ve missed out on! Pay close attention to the nuances in someone’s way of speaking, and you will start to make new connections between things they say. Be patient, and don’t expect to reach an understanding as quickly as you might in a simplified online conversation: meaningful dialogue takes time!

Listening also means letting go of your own ego for a moment. It can be easy to become distracted by your own thoughts, particularly when you’re forming an argument to what is being said or you’re excited about a great example you have to share. But while these words are forming in your mind, you’re only giving partial attention to the other person. Don’t be afraid of silences: listen carefully, then let them know that you’re thinking how best to phrase your response, rather than doing so while they’re still talking.

When it comes to upping your own end of the dialogue, you can continue by working with what the other person has brought to the table. Make it clear that you’re listening, and improve your own understanding, by repeating back or rephrasing difficult or unclear ideas that the other person has spoken about, to ensure that you understand them properly. And don’t leap in with your own authoritative ideas – especially when it comes to giving advice – because that isn’t dialogue: it’s didacticism.

It can be more constructive to ask questions and tease a subject towards resolution by working with each other’s ideas. That’s why you’re having a conversation with someone else to start with. Open-ended questions (beginning with How, What, or Why and requiring more than a Yes or No answer) are a great way of turning up unexpected information and ideas.

Telling a story is another great way to engage your friend or colleague while making your point – and all without coming across superior. Words, as they say, are given to us to hide our true feelings; a story, on the other hand, while made of words, can convey more complex feelings and concepts through the use of themes and verbal images. We also just love to hear a good story, and have done since our ancestors first sat around the campfire.

This step-by-step infographic from OnStride gathers these ideas and more into one place, so it’s easy to check in from time to time when you feel your conversation skills are lagging. It’s quite normal to be nervous of getting stuck in a conversation you can’t get out of – but just remember, the person on the other end is only human too.

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6 Effective Tips For Yoga Newbies — To Attain A Life Balance.

By Daniel Moayanda

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Yoga is a form of exercise used to increase strength, flexibility, and VO2 consumption. It helps in shaping the mind and body to attain a life balance. Meanwhile there are some key points yoga newbies needs to take note of.

Daily yoga practice can help you stay more productive, happy and more reasonable. This exercise reduces high blood pressure, increases flexibility, muscle strength and tone.

It also improves respiration energy and fertility, also helps in weight reduction.

This and more benefits of this exercise has encouraged several people especially, entrepreneurs to consider yoga as a key practice for productivity and maintaining life balance.

As a matter of fact, the National Health Interview Survey (NHIS) reveals that yoga is the sixth most commonly use complementary health practice for American adults. This survey also discovered that more than 1.5 million children practice yoga annually.

As a yoga newbie, it’s normal to lack confidence and motivation in the beginning. Most times you feel intimidated by the die-hard yogis who warm up with headstands. But seriously, you shouldn’t be bothered with that; they also started as a beginner before getting to that stage.

The most important thing is to prepare your body and make up your mind to get through the beginners stage, and with time, you’ll naturally find motivation to practice yoga at will.

Below therefore are 5 effective tips for yoga newbies to achieve a life balance.

1. Prepare for it:

Do you know that by spending time out preparing for this exercise, you can actually optimize your yoga experience?

Effective preparation before the exercise brings about optimum results and helps loosen up the body before venturing into the real yoga exercise.

To start with, set up a soft warm-up routine for 5- 15 minutes before starting the real yoga exercise.

Here are few warm-up exercises you can implement:

  • Rotate your neck both clockwise and anticlockwise to know if there’s any stiffness.
  • Pump your shoulder and shake your hands to shrug off the lethargy
  • Message your head, browse, nose and chick

2. Start simple:

Being a yoga experts is not an instantaneous activity. The process starts from being a yoga newbie to becoming an expert. So, start simple!

As humans, we love to get to the peak of our activity even right from the scratch, but most times it requires great commitment of yoga newbies to attain and maintain a balanced life.

“You don’t have to be great to get started, but you have to get started to be great”- Les Brown.

As a newbie, it’s advisable to learn simple yoga posts first before proceeding to the tough ones. So as not to loose motivation at the beginning of your experience.

3. Get a yoga kit equipment:

As a newbie, there’s high desire to get new steps in yoga practice. It’s more important to acquire yoga kits, in other to get the most effective result out of your practice.

In addition, getting yoga kits gives you a sense of professionalism at the exercise, and as well, protects you from unnecessary injury. While there are some auto transport service that helps customers ship their cars, there are also some shipping services that can help in conveying your yoga kits to you, so worry less about the market.

Here are 5 bit of yoga kit and equipment for beginners.

  • Yoga mat: This will provide cushioning on a hard floor and a non sleep surface for standing. Also, it grants friction, padding and increases safety when doing yoga positioning.
  • The Yoga block: Yoga block is also known as foam block. It’ll help stabilize standing positions when you can’t reach the floor easily.
  • Bolster: Yoga bolster is used to support the leg, spine or abdomen in certain positions.
  • Yoga belt: This type of belt is made of cotton or nylon, it helps to support your back and extend your grasp.
  • The Blanket: The yoga blanket keeps you warm and comfortable at the end of each yoga postures.

4. Get and Communicate with a seasoned yoga teacher:

As a newbie it’s important to learn under a good instructor or teacher — that would observe and assist you during practice.

Communicate with a professional yoga instructor if you have any medical condition. It’ll help the teacher to customize a special training that’ll not affect you physically but help your health condition.

One more important thing is to have the ability to say no. If a pose feels wrong or too painful for your health status, communicate with your teacher and say it out, your teacher may know a simple way to help.

5. Be consistent:

As a newbie it’s important to make sure you practice frequently. Little and often is more effective than occasional long session of yoga.

Practicing for just 20 minutes daily, with a few well chosen poses, can have a positive effect on your physical and emotional well being.

Be dedicated with constant practice to strengthen your inner desire. And as time passes, your body will begin to feel comfortable and familiar with the process and the exercise becomes a part of you.

6. Wear a comfortable clothing:

You’ll have to put on a comfortable clothe and put away body gadget like belt or jewelry as it could get in the way of your yoga practice. You’ll need to stretch your body to different directions, so you must not put on anything that’ll restrict your movement.

It is advisable to wear all natural materials, for example 100 percent cotton and hemp (which will allow circulation of air into the entire body) is good for yoga practice.

You can also check various materials to find out the one that best fit you for your yoga activities.

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The Power of Forgiveness: How to Forgive (and Ask for Forgiveness) to Regain Inner Peace

By Master Francisco Quintero

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Accumulating research supports what spiritual teachers from nearly all traditions have long taught: forgiveness heals. It improves our mood and optimism, brings inner peace, and helps us recover from challenges of all kinds. Even medical doctors are endorsing that forgiveness helps patients recover from injuries and ailments. Forgiveness improves the quality of our lives, helping us to be healthier and happier.

What do we mean by forgiveness? Simply put, we mean to consciously, lovingly pardon someone; to forgive a debt or release a mistake. It’s not about who’s right or wrong. It’s about freedom and acceptance. It’s about letting go of expectations, resentment, and blame. Forgiveness frees us of negativity we might otherwise hold, which is like swallowing poison.

But true forgiveness goes farther than offering forgiveness when we are hurt or harmed. To truly regain our inner peace, we must also seek forgiveness. Most people believe that “what goes around comes around.” This is the essence of the law of karma. When we offer loving and helpful service to others, good karma is accumulated, which blesses us. When we offer unpleasant service to others, bad karma is accumulated, which can block us.

The good news is that we can transform our karma and our lives through forgiveness practice. It helps to consider that our current life experiences are somehow a reflection of our past and present karma. Thus, when we are upset or believe others should ask for our forgiveness, this is also the time that we should go into our hearts and ask for their forgiveness, for any time we or our ancestors may have hurt them similarly before. This is not always easy, but it is quite a beautiful and transformative practice.

While forgiveness can be hard to accomplish, we can succeed with some well-designed practices. We will share a practice with you, but first, here are some tips that may help you open your heart to practice forgiveness more easily:

Keep in mind that we all make mistakes. People who hurt others are also hurting inside. This will help you find compassion, which will help you forgive.

Even if you are not a Christian, you can benefit from the story of what Jesus said during his final hours: “Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.” This helps us understand that people often hurt others in ignorance. With this wisdom, we may again find compassion for our offenders.

Remember how it feels to receive forgiveness. This will also help you offer it. Recall a time you made a big mistake and were forgiven. Remember how it felt to be forgiven. This will help you understand how important it can be to forgive.

Finally, according to karma wisdom, a very good practice is to turn your situation around. In other words, consider that you have harmed the one(s) who have harmed you, in the past. Sincerely apologize (at the soul level) and ask for forgiveness in addition to offering it. You may be totally surprised by the impact.

Here is a simple forgiveness practice you can do, adapted from the book, Greatest Love – How to Unblock Your Life in 30 Minutes a Day with Unconditional Love by Dr. & Master Zhi Gang Sha, Master Maya Mackie and Master Francisco Quintero:

Dear ____ (name your higher power, such as “God, Divine, the Creator, the Universe),

I love you.

Could you please bless my forgiveness practice?

I am very grateful.

Thank you.

Dear _____ (name any soul(s) you are practicing with, or you can practice with “all souls”),

I love you.

I deeply apologize for ________ (anything specific, or “all the mistakes my ancestors and I have made that have hurt or harmed you in any way”)

I sincerely ask for forgiveness

Please forgive us.

I forgive you unconditionally.

I would be grateful for your forgiveness.

Thank you.

Dear the “Greatest Love”

I love and honor you.

You have the power to help us love and forgive

Please bless our practice.

Thank you.

Repeatedly chant silently or aloud the mantra, “Greatest Love”. Close your eyes and visualize the beautiful light of Greatest Love coming into your hearts to help you forgive. Feel the Greatest Love helping you to love and forgive unconditionally while you chant. When you are finished, simply close the practice by thanking all the souls.

Love and forgiveness are the golden keys to life. This is a practice you can do daily. You can practice for any challenge by calling the souls that are involved. There is no downside. Everybody wins. Practice love and forgiveness for a happy, healthy and successful life.


Master Francisco Quintero is the co-author of Greatest Love (BenBella Books). He is a Certified Master Teacher trained by renowned spiritual teacher and humanitarian Master Zhi Gang Sha, and the author of Divine Joy: How to Find Joy in Daily Life. A leading teacher at the Tao Academy™, Master Francisco has developed training programs worldwide. With his expertise, wisdom, and knowledge, he has assisted in training over 6,000 soul practitioners and teachers around the world. For more information, please visit https://www.drsha.com/greatestlove/ and follow the author on Twitter.

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Five Ways to Increase your Self-Confidence

By Barbara Faison

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Trusting in your own judgment, abilities and personal power is the essence of self-confidence. One of my favorite quotes is from Eleanor Roosevelt, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” It’s a great reminder that self-confidence is an inside job.

Self-confidence can be like the weather. Some days your trust in your abilities and judgment may feel a little off and other days you may feel very confident. Hot, cold, cloudy or rainy, the weather is always changing. Like the weather, some days I wake up feeling fantastic! Other days, I want to crawl back under the covers and wait for a new day.

Yes, as human beings with thoughts, emotions, and feelings, we have moments when our confidence changes. That’s life.

And that is okay. Life is still happening all around. The sun rises. The seasons change. There will be traffic for most of us to consider.

Your self-confidence is not controlled by the weather or traffic. These things may affect how your day flows; they don’t ultimately affect your confidence.

I’ve heard older people say many times, “keep living.” My response now is, that is so true. As we continue living there may be factors that affect your self-confidence including:

  • losing your job
  • moving to a new city
  • changes in your relationships

Our lives are filled with constant images, sights, and sounds that impact even the most confident person. The 24-hour news, tweets, posts and social media notifications can also take a toll on you.

I’ve learned to be in my own head and to limit the voices of others in order to maintain a strong sense of self-confidence. I am the creator of my life experiences and I will have to live with the choices I make.

Just remember that you have the power to maintain your self-confidence, it is not dependent on outside forces.

Try these three tips to maintain or increase your self-confidence:

  1. Breathe. Trust. – Stopping to breathe and check in with yourself on a regular basis allows you to trust your inner guidance system, your intuition. The more you practice this, the stronger your instinctive feelings become and your trust grows.
  2. Go to Bed Early – Sometimes we are over stimulated by daily living. Sleeping can be the only time many people are still or quiet. Make sleep a priority by picking one or two days of the week you will go to bed early. Rest is restorative.
  3. Be Adventurous – Make trying new things a regular practice. Buy music from an unknown singer or artist. Take a painting class. Buy something new from the grocery store. Take a different route home from work.
  4. Limit Notifications – Check your technology to see what types of notifications you have turned on. Decide which ones are most beneficial and keep only one or two active. Turn all the other notifications off. You will thank me later.
  5. Be Your Own Best Friend – Learn to enjoy your own company more than the company of others. In doing so you can take time for self-discovery, try new experiences and decide what you like and don’t like.

Enjoying your own company, being adventurous and getting adequate rest are great confidence boosters. Be kind and gentle with yourself as you remember to stop, breathe and trust your intuition. Trust and believe that you have the power, abilities and judgment to know what is best for you because you do.

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Erin’s Things: November 28

By Erin Falconer

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This week I’ve discovered some cool light installations, a way to cook with one of the best and as always a little art and music to inspire. What made you a little happier last week? Leave a message in the comments below!

MIKE KELLEY – One of the most ambitious and influential artists of our time, the late Mike Kelley’s work ‘Mike Kelley: Kandors 1999-2011′ is organized in collaboration with the Mike Kelley Foundation is now on display in an exhibit at the Hauser & Wirth gallery in Los Angeles. This is the first exhibit in Mike Kelley’s hometown. The exhibit will be held through until January 2018. His sculptures are described as visually opulent and technically ambitious, presenting illuminated cities and hand blown bottles that rework the imagery and mythology of the popular American comic book superhero Superman. There are mini versions of Kandor, Superman’s hometown, all lit from within in this supernatural collection. It is written that his ‘works are a meditation on power, loss and memory’. Isn’t that enough reason to make this your cultural outing this weekend?

ALICE WATERS ONLINE COOKING CLASS– This James Beard awarded chef started the farm to table revolution, founding the restaurant Chez Panisse, she prided herself on local, organic ingredients- not knowing it would spark a movement. She is now beginning her first ever online class, where she opens her kitchen in order to teach us everything from picking seasonal ingredients to cooking healthy meals in order to change your life, all from your own home. You receive a 10 class workshop, a workbook to follow and even an option to upload your own videos to get feedback from the class and a select few from Alice herself! Let’s get cooking!

AMIR’S GARDEN – After a brush with fire ravaged a Griffith Park hillside in the 1970’s, hiking fan Amir Dialameh from Iran, decided to fix it. Grabbing his own tools her decided to remove at least 200 burnt trees on his own- and replanting some wonderful jacaranda trees, rose bushes, geraniums, oleander and yuccas. Sit on benches, near planters, and appreciate the lush garden he meticulously created over 12 years. It makes your next hiking workout finish with an outstanding view.

DESCANSO GARDENS – ENCHANTED FOREST OF LIGHT – Every year at Descanso Gardens in La Canata, California (near Pasadena), there is a gorgeous light festival that you can enjoy with a one mile stroll through the gardens. There is a timed ticket you buy as you enjoy the captivating interactive experience. This is the type of even that makes one believe in those stories of majestic and magical forests. Take your significant other, and/or your family for an unforgettable nighttime event.

KARINE POLWART – If listening to meticulously crafted melodies, powerful lyrics with contemporary relevance and a striking voice is your thing, then Karine Polwart is your artist. With many solo albums under her belt, this Scottish artist is a fireside storyteller who happens to be a 4 time winner of the BBC Radio 2 Folk Awards, twice for Best Original Song. She collaborates, records and tours, always finding time to teach and write for community based, educational projects. Wind Resistance is her critically acclaimed debut for the theatre for which she wrote, musically directed and performed. She is unstoppable, lucky us!

Have a great week and be well!

Erin

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